There is no perfect formula for life, each person is an individual, every.single.one.of.us. So, how can there be a perfect, one-size fits all formula for life? Wouldn't life be so much easier if there was a one-size fits all formula? What about a do and don't checklist for living? How easy would that be for most people?
Books are where I got into trouble. Books though are just books, the exception is The Word of God. Years ago, my favoritest Titus 2 mentor introduced me to the saying, "eat the fish and spit out the bones" in reference to books. That saying has stuck with me as I have grown over the years.
In the past I would take a book, say a parenting book, and ingest the entire book, bones and all. And I choked. Yet, I continued to partake and choke on the same bones again and again. I attempted to fit myself (and my family) into the formula created by the author. Instead of taking the parts that were helpful, doable, applicable to life as was needed for that time, I choked. Yes, I am hard-headed and a slow learner.
I look at this two ways from hindsight. Because of my slow learning curve, I really learned my lesson and have had my eyes opened to discern. The second, those immature, heels dug in days make me appreciate God's Word, the Truth, the knowledge that I do not have to find a formula. Oh the blessings of God's grace, the character of God. God's Word is my guide.